Being a Counsellor of adults and couples, I have noticed in the eyes of my clients, the deep negative impacts of anger. At home, anger can slowly and gradually take away the people who matter to us the most and cause partners and children to pull out, harming significant relationships. A furious reaction at the workplace, often spoil relationships with co-workers and supervisors. This can lead to undesired performance evaluations, block individuals from the promotions they so desire and result in untimely dismissals. Another common type of rage seen among people are road rages. A particular driver drives rash around another car which they think is driving in the wrong way. If you ultimately have to do the same thing, then what is difference between you and him? Outcomes of road rage are pretty much drastic and unfortunate such as traffic tickets, license suspensions and accidents. Some people realise their mistakes but mostly, they do not have enough guts to speak and to fight it back.
About My Work in Anger Management
Do you relate to yourself after reading the above mentioned scenarios? If your response is yes then it is high time to have a quick look at how does anger really affects an individual. In working with clients with anger issues, my role is to assist individuals to understand the ways their thoughts and their patterns of behaviour contribute to this negative cycle. Individuals learn to challenge their perceptions about others, explore unresolved feelings and adopt new behaviours to bring about change in their personal relationships, work environments and in their contact with others in their community.
1. First and foremost, you have to take ownership of the role of anger in your life. It is important to full-heartedly realise the impact anger on your relationship with extended family, partners, friends, co-workers and even the strangers you meet in your day to day life.
2. The second step would be to dig out the intersected misconceptions related to anger which go in your mind. Like it is said, “it’s all in the mind”. Generally, people believe that they get angry due to someone else’ actions. In my experience, Clients complain to me about inconsideration, rudeness, incompetence and many other such reasons as a justification for their furious reaction. The truth is that we cannot control someone else’ action. The key to happiness is to spend your energy at the right place, where you think it is worth it. Make sure you start with working on yourself.
3. The third step is to analyse what sets fire to your anger bomb. In my experience, reminiscing some old memory which isn’t quite pleasant fuels up anger. There might be normal incidents which you may go through and you may relate to some false memory of the past and this aggravates the anger in you. It is basically the present interpretation of the actions done by anyone from the viewpoint of one’s past life experiences.
4. The fourth and the final step involves the coping and learning alternatives which you should adopt to manage anger in an efficient way. This way you can have new tools to use whenever you feel angry. Normally, clients are asked to refer an anger management workbook. This help them to explore their thoughts and helps them in introspecting.
When I get a client, I work to understand the history of his or her life, their strengths, and every other information which can help me, help them. Without much ado, contact Dr, Sharlee McDowall, a registered Psychologist in the McDowall Counselling and Consulting group. Refer to the website for more information- http://www.counsellingtoronto.com/